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Imagine that you are an American on a business trip to Germany. You have learned to speak enough German to order meals, buy train tickets, and do some shopping. You are at the 'survival' level of language mastery. You do not speak the language well. By Guy Harris 'Think like a wise man but communicate in the language of the people.' - William Butler Yeats 'Communicate downward to subordinates with at least the same care and attention as you communicate upward to superiors.' - L.B. Belker (The First Time Manager) Imagine that you are an American on a business trip to Germany. You have learned to speak enough German to order meals, buy train tickets, and do some shopping. You are at the 'survival' level of language mastery. You do not speak the language well, but you can survive in the country. On your first night in Germany, you dine alone at a restaurant near your hotel. You can read enough German to understand the menu. When the waiter comes to the table, you should: a) Attempt to speak German to make things easier for the waiter b) Point to the menu, say nothing, and hope that the waiter understands c) Speak English loudly so that the waiter can hear you more clearly d) Ask the waiter if he speaks English and expect him to adjust to you In this scenario, most people recognize that 'a' is the most correct answer. You each speak a different native language. Since you are in the waiter's country, and you understand at least some of his native language, it seems fitting for you to make the effort to connect with him in his language. Maybe he speaks some English, so that you can both adapt a little to make the connection, but you are the visitor so you make the first move. Now consider a different scenario. You are the leader of an organization. You like to move fast and get results. You naturally speak directly, quickly, and with a focus on the bottom line. One of the people who reports to you is quiet and soft-spoken. He or she does good work, so you are willing to delegate responsibility. You always let the person know what you want done, but he or she keeps asking how you want things done. When you enter this person's office, you should: a) Speak softly and slowly with a focus on how things should proceed b) Drop a stack of papers on the person's desk, point to it, and hope that he or she understands c) Raise your voice volume, speak faster, and talk about the results you want d) Ask him or her to 'pick up the pace' and 'get with you on this' Again, the correct answer is 'a.' As in the first example, you speak a different native 'language' than your teammate. You both speak English, but you speak it differently. The 'language' difference between you and your teammate lies primarily in the difference between your personality styles. When you enter the teammate's space, you are the visitor so you make the first move. Opportunities for miscommunication and misunderstanding abound. They happen everywhere people come together. The second example above illustrates one potential interaction that can lead to miscommunication. Other combinations also exist between people. The number of possible combinations exceeds the scope of this article, but the following examples illustrate some of these other possibilities: One person says, 'we need to confront the issue.' Someone else hears, 'he's angry.' One person says, 'show some enthusiasm.' Someone else hears, 'act like an idiot.' One person says, 'we should be compassionate.' Someone else hears, 'we should be wimps.' One person says, 'let's check our facts.' Someone else hears, 'I don't like you.' In order to achieve success, leaders and communicators must work through these points of misunderstanding. It will not happen by accident. Breaking through these barriers takes effort and focus. Most people start at the 'survival' level. With practice, you can move to 'fluency.' Everyone works with people in some part of their lives. Whether you are a business leader, teacher, sales professional, pastor, or parent; success calls for connecting and effectively communicating with other people. To improve your results in this area, learn to speak the other person's 'language.' About the Author: Guy Harris is the owner and president of Principle Driven Consulting (www.principledriven.com). He helps teams build trust, reduce conflict, and get results. You can read Guy's blog for more insights. Article Source: A Language Guide - http://www.a-language-guide.com More free articles: 1st Rate Articles - 1stRateArticles.com |
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